People are like sheep. Get a few sheep (a.k.a. wedding guests) to do something, and the rest of the flock will quickly follow along. It’s true. We like to think that we’re all individuals doing our own thing, but any sociology class will tell you that we often follow right along with what the masses are doing. And how we behave at weddings is no exception.
At a wedding, guests take their cues from other guests, the DJ or bandleader, and most importantly, the leaders of the flock… the bride and groom. Without even realizing it, the bride and groom set the tone for the wedding. Ask any DJ and they will agree… if the bride and groom dance, guests will dance. If the couple is more of the conversationalist type and spend much of the evening sitting down and talking with people one on one, the entire event will have a different energy. As the guests of honor, everyone else looks to you for direction about how they should act and what kind of party you’re hosting.
Last month, we were at the W Hotel for Katy and David’s wedding reception, and it was truly a PARTY! Immediately after the father/daughter and mother/son dances were over, the DJ kicked it into high gear, and our bride was right in the middle of the dance floor with her guests. The groom was also no stranger to the dance floor, and just might have participated in a dance off with other guests. It. Was. Awesome. With our couple clearly having a great time and not afraid to cut a rug, their guests quickly followed along, and what resulted was a good time had by all.
We’ve also had events where the newlyweds weren’t dancers. They didn’t enjoy dancing, and so they only got on the dance floor for their first dance. The rest of the time, they simply chatted with guests at their tables. Not surprisingly, not a lot of guests danced either.
Now, I’m not saying that every couple needs to spend hours on the dance floor in order to have a fun reception. Nope. Not at all. What I am saying is, you should know yourselves and know what type of reception works best for you. Not all weddings have to be a rendition of Dance Party USA… and if you aren’t going to enjoy being at that type of reception, certainly don’t host one! A sit-down dinner with a more laid back jazz band might be right up your alley!
I was discussing this idea about the bride and groom setting the tone for the event with a DJ friend of mine, and he not only agreed, but had a great suggestion for couples that aren’t big dancers but still want to host a reception with dancing. He recommended that those couples try to stay near the dance floor, even if they aren’t planning on dancing themselves. That way, guests will feel comfortable cutting a rug and won’t feel like they are straying too far away from the guests of honor. Brilliant!