I mentioned yesterday that I spent some time this weekend at Spray Tan Camp Dallas. Nope. I wasn’t spray tanning. I was speaking on a panel about the wedding industry. Even though I didn’t have a speaking role for day two of Spray Tan Camp, I was excited to go back because business coach Laurie Grace Bouldin was going to be speaking to the group of entrepreneurs. I’ve heard Laurie Grace speak before, and she’s not only a wonderfully dynamic speaker but she is also skilled at making her audience really think about things in their life (personal, business, whatever) in a unique way. She is one of the most passionate, honest and genuine women I’ve met in a long time. Basically, I’m a Laurie Grace fan. There was so much I took away from her session titled “The Art of Relationshiping,” but there was one sentence in particular that Laurie Grace said that struck me that I had to write down and I will remember for a long time.
“No is a complete sentence.”
I mean… how powerful is that? For someone like me who is a pleaser and has a really hard time saying no (I’m getting better at it!) and has a tendency to take on way more than I should, that sentence was huge for me. I hate to go so far as to say it was life-changing, ’cause that seems like a little much, but it definitely made an impact on me. No. Sounds nice, doesn’t it?
So, what does that mean for all of you out there planning weddings? Well, I think it translates into the sometimes chaotic world of wedding planning quite nicely. With so many people having opinions about your wedding — parents, future in-laws, bridesmaids, co-workers, and the list goes on and on — it’s so easy to be swayed away from what you really want simply to keep the peace or to please others, when really what you (and your soon-to-be spouse) want really does matter. Sure, life is sometimes a compromise and yes, you want to be a gracious host, but it’s also o.k. to say no! No, we’re not having children at our wedding. No, you can’t bring an extra guest. No, you can’t rearrange the seating. No. Nope. Sorry, no.
Planning a wedding is a lot of work. Trust me, I know! But I encourage you as a bride to think about what you really want (and what you can afford, of course) and if something doesn’t fit with that vision, just say no. Keep in mind, those that are footing the bill should get some say in how their money is spent, but your second cousin who you haven’t seen in 12 years has a request that you don’t feel good about? You can say no. And no is a complete sentence.