Planning your wedding is such a wonderful time in your life. It’s especially great to include your 3 F’s (fiancé, family, and friends) for some much needed emotional and moral support! Although you may want to get everyones opinion on all things wedding planning, you certainly don’t need to bring them all to your vendor meetings. Let’s talk about the 3 F’s in more detail, and who should attend vendor meetings with you.
First of all, you’ll want to identify who your decision makers are. Think about it for a minute.. got it? Good! Your decision makers could be a number of people from the categories below. These are the people that should attend your vendor meetings with you.
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Are you and your fiancé the only decision makers in the wedding planning process? If so, that’s great! But before you drag him to every florist and photographer meeting (and everything in between), find out what meetings he’s actually interested in attending. Only interested in cake and DJ? Check! Take him to those meetings. He’ll likely trust your judgment to pick out the flowers and linens you’ve always dreamed of having at your wedding! He wants to go to every single vendor meeting? That’s fab! It will be nice to have a second opinion at all your meetings.
Are there members of your families who are financially invested in the wedding? If so, there’s a good chance they may want to be a part of the decision making process. Whether it be the parents of the bride or the parents of the groom or a combination of the two, you’ll want to check with them and see if they need to be present at certain vendor meetings. With that being said, if you and your fiancé are the only ones financially responsible for your wedding, then it is perfectly fine to request that your families do not attend vendor meetings.
I personally would recommend that you do not bring your friends to vendor meetings, unless you have a friend who is also a decision maker. You’ll be talking about how much things cost when you go to your vendor meetings.. which can be a very personal conversation! Most people wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing that kind of information with their friends. If you need your friends opinions on what wedding dress you should purchase or what bridesmaids dresses you should pick out, then you should take them to those appointments!
Only bringing your decision makers to your meetings will help streamline the process of picking your vendors and making timely decisions. Less is more in this case!