According to WeddingJournalOnline.com, one in ten newlyweds experience feelings of depression after their weddings. Surprised? I’m not… I’m actually shocked that the number of people suffering from post-nuptial depression isn’t higher. Think about it…. couples (and brides in particular) focus so much of their time and energy on all the details that go into making their wedding day perfect that when it’s over, well… it’s over.
Many brides plan their weddings for well over a year, spending much of their free time thinking about the wedding and doing wedding related things (dress shopping, and dress fittings, and cake tastings, and floral appointments, and bridal showers, and bachelorette parties, and… well, you get the idea). When you’re engaged, it seems like you’re the center of attention. Not only do people want to hear about your plans, from where you’re getting married to what colors you’ve chosen to the style of your dress, but they want to throw you parties too! But after your married… not so much.
So, what’s a bride to do? Well, I’m no psychologist, but I have a few tips that I think brides can do before they tie the knot to help minimize the transition back into “regular” life after the wedding:
- Keep up with your hobbies during the wedding planning process: It can’t be all wedding planning all the time. If you love to run, keep that up while you’re planning your wedding. If you’re a bookworm, make sure you keep something around to read other than Martha Stewart Weddings. By keeping up with your own non-wedding related passions, you’ll be sure to not lose yourself in the wedding planning whirlwind. Plus, once the wedding’s over, you won’t have to start training for that race from scratch or search for a new activity to occupy your time with.
- Schedule non-wedding related excursions: With so many wedding appointments to go on, it’s easy to make all the time with your fiance centered around the wedding. Don’t do it. Make sure to plan date nights that are a break from wedding planning. It will help you remember why you are going through the whole planning process in the first place!
- Plan your marriage: The engagement period isn’t just about planning the party. You should also use this time to plan something much more important – your marriage. Things like how you will manage your money, how you will divide your time between families on holidays, and when to grow your family are all things that should be worked out, and there’s no better time than now to start the discussions.
I have to admit, nowadays, my post-wedding blues are not what you would expect. My blues happen after each Hitched Events wedding! After working with couples for months at a time and getting to know them and their families, I get really sad when the wedding day is over! Don’t get me wrong, I’m so incredibly thankful to have been able to be a part of the bride and groom’s wedding day, but I’m sad to see them go!
For all you married folks out there, did you have the post-wedding blues? Any tips you can share for overcoming it? Or better yet, for avoiding it in the first place?